​In fitness and in love, Shebah and Nate are Baby Boomers who personify a Millennial phrase: #relationshipgoals.

The pair, both over 60, met and became trainers late in life. They now live together, work together, and share a robust relationship that includes healthy living at its core.

Their fitness love story offers lessons for all of us at Valentine’s Day and year-round.

How They Met

Shebah and Nate were both involved in successful careers when they interviewed for a municipal recreation job.

Nate got it, but the first time they met – at a grocery store, without knowing about the professional rivalry – Shebah was smitten.

“I turned around and looked at this guy, and he’s really fine…,” she recalls. “I applied for the job, and then I got him.”

Shebah became a catalyst for Nate’s transition to exercise and healthy eating. He had recently suffered a health scare while working a corporate job that involved a lot of travel and stress, without any time for taking care of himself.

That was more than 10 years ago, and the pair are both super-fit and devoted to helping their clients, and each other, live their best lives for as long as possible. Some of their clients are younger adults, but many are over 50, as well.

Nate and Shebah stay active inside the gym and outside of it.

“It’s important to us that we walk our talk,” Nate says. “We want to make sure we do what we suggest.”

Shebah adds, “We’re promoting this whole idea of being ageless, so we want to look that part.”

Tips for Other Couples

Part of their motivation to stay fit is rooted in their concern for each other. They share that philosophy with other mature adults who want to get fit or remain fit.

“Do you want to stay healthy long enough so that your partner doesn’t have to take care of you?” Shebah asks. “People don’t think about that. But it creates a stronger bond.”

Nate says fitness helps them grow their interdependence — common growth and experiences that make the relationship stronger. He has become a great friend to Shebah’s adult son, whose activities as a special-needs athlete keep the family moving.

Some research suggests that working out with your significant other is good for both your workouts and your relationship. But sometimes, one partner is ready to exercise and eat right, while the other one isn’t yet on board. This couple cautions against applying too much pressure if that’s the case.

“You can only do it for yourself – you can’t do it for somebody else until they want it,” Nate says.

“You have to make up your own mind that fitness is for you,” Shebah adds. “The other person doesn’t always listen. You can lead by example.”

That idea of being “ageless” means something different to everyone, and Shebah and Nate urge people over 50 to focus on posture, alignment, balance and nutrition, along with strength and cardio training.

“It’s not about trying to be 25 again,” Nate says. “It’s about dealing with your issues and getting on with your life the way you want to. Getting old isn’t for weaklings.”

A Different Kind of Couples Therapy

We love working with couples at ProActive Fitness! We have several married couples in our Small Group Training and a few doing semi-private training (one couple with a trainer). 

If you and your honey are looking to get stronger and fitter, call the studio to book a free consultation and we’ll see if we’re a good fit for you! 

“The couple that trains together, stays together!”

Creamy Carrot Soup

​I still have garden carrots in my cold room. They are starting to get a little wobbly, so I think I’ll suggest to BT that he try this recipe out sometime this week!

Most creamy soups are filled with fat – but not this one. Indulge with this healthy carrot soup. Serve with a side of lean chicken breast or grilled fish and a small salad for a balanced meal. Servings: 2 

Here’s what you need:

  • 1 teaspoon olive oil
  • 3 garlic cloves, minced
  • 1/2 small onion, diced
  • Dash of sea salt
  • 4 cups carrots, diced
  • 5 cups water
  • 3 Tablespoons white miso (Also called “light” or “sweet” miso, you can find it in the Asian aisle in larger grocery stores. Sometimes they label it “soybean paste”.)
  1. In a soup pot heat the olive oil over medium heat. Add garlic and onion with a dash of salt and cook for 4 minutes. Add carrots and stir, cook for another 4 minutes. Add the water and bring to a boil.
  2. Reduce heat, cover and simmer until carrots are tender, about 20 minutes. Use a hand blender to process the soup until smooth.
  3. Remove 1 cup of the soup and mix the miso into it until dissolved. Add back into the soup and simmer for 5 more minutes.

Nutritional Analysis: One serving equals: 187 calories, 4g fat, 27g carbohydrate, 5g fiber, and 5g protein.